When pursuing any goal, project, or challenge, it’s important to reflect on what’s going well, what isn’t and areas for improvement. People and teams that exhibit authentic mental fortitude, practice the fine art of debriefing – or after-action reviews as we call them in the military. I cannot even spell the word.”ġ0 - Learn from the past, but don’t dwell on it: His take on failure is this: “I don’t lose sleep at night over the potential for failure. In a recent interview I did with the legendary General James Mattis, former US Secretary of Defense, I shared a few of my favorite quotes of his. Falling short of achieving goals and intended outcomes are an inevitable part of life. The mentally tough know the path to success and a fulfilling life is riddled with the pockmarks of micro-failures. Ultimately, it’s up to us to limit our list of regrets.ĩ - View failure as fuel for their journey: The worst thing that can happen is to allow ourselves to die inside while we are still alive. Yet, death is not the worst thing that can happen to us.
The fear of pain, anxiety, and the suffering that comes with each day. “A coward dies a thousand times before his death, but the valiant taste of death but once.” ― William Shakespeare, Julius Caesarĭuring Navy SEAL training, the candidates often suffer from many forms of fear. They assume change is lurking just down the road and constantly plan for contingencies. They know that fear of change is debilitating and a major threat to their success and fulfillment. Mentally tough people - especially in leadership roles - are flexible and are constantly adapting. I dive deep into this subject in my first bestselling book, TakingPoint: 10 Fail-Safe Principles for Leading Through Change. Mentally tough people keep moving forward despite all odds. True confidence-as opposed to the false confidence people project to mask their insecurities-is a whole different animal. Moments that test your mental toughness are ultimately testing your emotional intelligence (EQ).Īs Henry Ford once said, “ Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you’re right.” Research shows that confident people accomplish more of their goals, earn higher incomes, and get promoted more quickly than their counterparts. You cannot be mentally tough without the ability to fully understand and tolerate strong negative emotions and do something productive with them.
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They know how to transform volatility, uncertainty, and pain into a useful energy force.ĥ - Understand the importance of emotional intelligence:Įmotional intelligence is the bedrock of mental toughness.
They are more uncomfortable inside their comfort zone than when they venture out. Until then, find a home for your armor, and I’ll see you in the arena.The people that exhibit the highest degrees of mental toughness, not only navigate adversity well, they THRIVE on it. And if you want to call these “soft skills” after you’ve tried putting them into practice-go for it.
We just haven’t had the courage for real talk about courage. The skill sets that make up courage are not new they’ve been aspirational leadership skills for as long as there have been leaders. We have to be vigilant about creating a culture in which people feel safe, seen, heard, and respected. To scale daring leadership and build courage in teams and organizations, we have to cultivate a culture in which brave work, tough conversations, and whole hearts are the expectation, and armor is not necessary or rewarded. Our armor-the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that we use to protect ourselves when we aren’t willing and able to rumble with vulnerability-move us out of alignment with our values, corrode trust with our colleagues and teams, and prevent us from being our most courageous selves. The greatest barrier to courageous leadership is not fear-it’s how we respond to our fear. Our ability to be daring leaders will never be greater than our capacity for vulnerability. The foundational skill set of courage-building is “rumbling with vulnerability.” Once we have built these rumbling skills, we can move on to the other three skill sets: Living into Our Values, Braving Trust, and Learning to Rise. Embrace the suck.ĭaring leadership is a collection of four skill sets that are 100% teachable, observable, and measurable. You can’t get to courage without rumbling with vulnerability.Here are a few of the big ideas that emerged from this research: The goal of Dare to Lead is to share everything we’ve learned about taking off the armor and showing up as leaders in a skills-based and actionable playbook. I’ve spent twenty years studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, and I recently completed a seven-year study on brave leadership.
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